I recently received a text from a friend of 20 years. It was similar to other messages I receive from many women – she was ready to start to lift weights, but she wasn’t sure where to start. But what surprised me in her message was that she prefaced by saying that I was the first person she was sharing that she was going to start lifting because she knew that I wouldn’t try to talk her out of it. Honestly, that stopped me in my tracks. WHY would anyone try to stop you from lifting weights? She also continued that she didn’t want to bulk up, just tone. So today I’m here, again, to break the myth: women that lift get bulky.
First, let’s address the toning comment. There is no such thing as toning – you can’t spot treat areas. What most women mean when they say tone is to get definition. And to get the definition, you need to build up muscle. To build up muscle you need to eat and lift. And as a woman you’re not going to get bulky because a) you’re a woman don’t have the necessary hormones to support that and b) I guarantee you don’t eat enough to make that happen!
Here’s a photo that Todd snapped of me on a recent back day. I was taking a break between sets, no posing, just relaxed. What do you see? My abs, of course – but do you see bulk? Do I look manly? No. I’m a woman and I have curves AND definition.
I don’t starve myself.
I don’t overdo cardio.
I probably eat more food than you do.
I don’t jump on the fad bandwagon – here’s a side-eye to all those teas and shake diets that are not easily maintainable.
What do I do?
I work out 6 days a week and I eat clean.
I stick to the macros that support my goals.
And biggest one of all – I’m not afraid of weights.
If you’re a woman and you want to lift weights, then do it! And if anyone tries to talk you out of it or convince you that you’re going to get manly or bulky, kindly tell them to shove it!
If you’re a beginner and have questions, let’s hear them! We’re all here for the same reason – to get healthy and feel good in our own skin.